When folks fall into conflict both of them have a sense they are right, while the other person is wrong. With emotions running high it is real easy to lose perspective. Have you ever noticed what bothers you immensely about someone else might be a character flaw you share yourself? Maybe you never thought about it. Sometimes God slowly glides a “spiritual” mirror in our direction. If you have issues with a strong-willed person, what’s causing you to NOT backdown. Could it be you are a strong-willed person yourself?
Here are a couple of verses to consider.
You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. Romans 2:1 NIV
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? Luke 6:41 NIV
Check out the same verses from The Message.
Those people are on a dark spiral downward. But if you think that leaves you on the high ground where you can point your finger at others, think again. Every time you criticize someone, you condemn yourself. It takes one to know one. Judgmental criticism of others is a well-known way of escaping detection in your own crimes and misdemeanors. But God isn’t so easily diverted. He sees right through all such smoke screens and holds you to what you’ve done. Romans 2:1-2 The Message
It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this I-know-better-than-you mentality again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your own part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor. Luke 6:41-42 The Message
Can you say “Ouch”? 🙂